Fraser Olender Gives Update on Matt Rogers: ‘We’re Very, Very Good’

If you were keeping score on Fraser Olender and Matt Rogers, you might have assumed the game was over. It isn’t — or, at least, not in the way you’d think. The Below Deck star has finally given fans a proper update on where he stands with his ex-boyfriend, and the short version is this: they’re good. Really good. The kind of good that has him seeing the guy the very next day.

Fraser, 32, opened up during a new interview while out doing press for the currently airing 13th season of Below Deck. Naturally, the conversation drifted away from charter guests and table settings and landed on the question everyone has been quietly wondering about: so, what exactly is going on with you and Matt?

His answer was refreshingly uncomplicated. No cryptic Instagram captions, no soft-launching, no “no comment.” Just a guy telling the truth about a relationship that took a few unexpected turns.

“We’re Very, Very Good”

Speaking with Page Six’s Virtual Reali-Tea, Fraser described what happened after filming on Below Deck wrapped. The pair, who had pressed pause on things while he was away shooting the show, found their way back to each other in Thailand once the cameras stopped rolling.

“We’re very, very good,” he said. “Yeah, we got back together. We had a really nice, sort of, blissful rekindling after we filmed in Thailand.”

Blissful rekindling. That’s a phrase you don’t hear every day, and Fraser said it like he meant it — like the memory still made him smile a little. For a minute there, it sounded like the classic reality TV romance comeback story, the kind fans screenshot and caption with heart emojis.

But then came the twist that regular viewers already knew was coming. Because while the Thailand reunion was real, it didn’t last in the way either of them might have hoped. By July, reports surfaced that the two had officially broken up for good, closing the book on a relationship that had already survived one long pause.

And yet here Fraser is, months later, saying they’re very, very good. How does that work? Well, that’s kind of the whole point. Sometimes an ex isn’t an enemy. Sometimes they’re just… still your person, even if the romantic part didn’t stick.

How Fraser and Matt Got Here

Let’s rewind a bit, because this timeline has more stops than a charter itinerary. Fraser, the London-born chief steward who has become one of Below Deck‘s most recognizable faces, and Matt, the 36-year-old comedian and actor, confirmed they were dating in November 2025. It was the kind of announcement that made two very different fanbases sit up at once: Bravo devotees on one side, comedy and pop culture obsessives on the other.

They looked good together, too. Red carpets, sweet social media moments, the whole thing. If you followed either of them online, you saw a couple that seemed genuinely happy and, crucially, genuinely funny together. Matt’s whole world is jokes and quick wit; Fraser’s whole world is keeping a superyacht running while managing a crew of strong personalities. On paper, it shouldn’t have worked. In practice, it kind of did.

Then came the filming pause. Fraser headed off to shoot the current season of Below Deck, and the relationship went on hold while he was away. That’s not a small thing. Filming a season of that show means weeks at sea, long days, no real privacy, and a schedule that doesn’t exactly leave room for FaceTime date nights. It’s a lot to ask of any relationship, let alone a relatively new one.

When filming wrapped, they reunited in Thailand — hence the blissful rekindling. For a while, it looked like the pause had actually made things stronger. Then, in July, came the news that they’d officially split for good. No drama-filled statements, no messy public fallout. Just a quiet end to a relationship that had already been through a lot in a short space of time.

Distance Did the Damage

So what went wrong? According to Fraser, it wasn’t a blow-up or a betrayal or any of the usual reality TV reasons. It was something much more ordinary — and, honestly, much more relatable.

Distance. Plain, unglamorous, logistical distance.

“I then moved to the other side of the world, and that’s where it was at,” he explained. “And doing what I do as well, it takes a certain type of time and person, and it’s just tough.”

He’s not wrong. Fraser’s job isn’t a nine-to-five. It’s months on a yacht, in a different time zone, with spotty Wi-Fi and a crew depending on him around the clock. Matt’s career, meanwhile, is rooted in New York and Los Angeles — stand-up, acting, podcasting, the works. Trying to stitch those two lives together across continents is the kind of challenge that would test even the most solid couple.

There’s something refreshing about hearing a reality star say that out loud instead of dressing it up. No villains in this story. No one cheated, no one stormed out, no one threw a drink. Two people with demanding, globe-trotting careers just couldn’t make the geography work. It happens to regular people every day; it just doesn’t usually happen with a Bravo camera crew nearby.

Still in Each Other’s Corner

Here’s the part that actually matters, though. Fraser didn’t use the interview to close the door or throw shade. Quite the opposite. He said the two of them still support each other and adore each other — his words — and added that he was seeing Matt the very next day at the time of the interview.

That’s not how most celebrity breakups sound. Usually you get the carefully worded joint statement about “mutual respect” and “privacy at this time,” followed by an unfollow and six months of silence. Fraser and Matt seem to have skipped that whole miserable phase and landed somewhere much healthier: exes who actually like each other.

And look, maybe that’s easier when there’s no bad blood to begin with. When a relationship ends because of timing and distance rather than trust being broken, there’s less to forgive. You can still root for the other person. You can still show up. You can still be the first one to laugh at their joke, or text them after a big night, or — apparently — see them the next day without it being weird.

Fans, for their part, seem to be taking the update in stride. If anything, there’s a kind of collective sigh of relief that the story doesn’t end with bitterness. People invested in this couple because they seemed fun together. Finding out they’re still fun together, just in a different way, is honestly a pretty good outcome.

Who Fraser Is on Below Deck

For anyone who only knows Fraser through the headlines, a quick refresher is in order. He joined Below Deck as chief steward and quickly became a fan favorite — sharp, funny, occasionally gloriously blunt, and very good at the job that actually matters on a superyacht: keeping guests happy while keeping the interior crew from falling apart.

He’s the rare Bravo personality who manages to be both entertaining and competent, which is harder than it looks. Viewers have watched him navigate nightmare charter guests, tricky crew dynamics, and the general chaos of life at sea, usually with a joke ready and a glass of champagne in hand. Season 13, currently airing, is just the latest chapter in a run that has made him one of the franchise’s most reliable presences.

That reliability is part of why fans care about his personal life in the first place. When someone lets you into their world season after season — the stress, the laughs, the occasional tears in the galley — you start to feel like you know them. So when Fraser talks about a relationship, people listen. And when he says he’s doing okay, people are genuinely glad to hear it.

Who Matt Is Beyond the Bravo World

Matt, meanwhile, brings his own considerable fanbase to the table. He’s a comedian and actor best known as one half of the beloved pop culture podcast Las Culturistas, which he co-hosts with Bowen Yang. If you’ve spent any time in the comedy or pop culture corners of the internet, you’ve heard Matt’s voice — fast, funny, endlessly quotable, and completely unafraid of a strong opinion.

He’s also made his mark as an actor, including a standout turn in the 2022 romantic comedy Fire Island, and he’s built a reputation as one of the sharpest, funniest voices in the business. Put him next to a reality star and you get a pairing that made sense precisely because it didn’t make sense — the comedian and the chief stew, the New York stage and the open sea.

That’s part of why the relationship caught on. It wasn’t a manufactured Bravo romance or a PR pairing. It was two people from different worlds who clearly enjoyed each other’s company, and the public enjoyed watching that. Even now, with the romantic chapter closed, that enjoyment hasn’t really gone away.

What This Update Really Means

So where does that leave Fraser and Matt? Not together, not estranged — just somewhere in between, in that grown-up space that doesn’t make for dramatic headlines but makes for a much better life.

It’s tempting to read every celebrity update as a hint of a reunion, and no doubt some fans will do exactly that. But Fraser’s words don’t really sound like a man laying the groundwork for a comeback. They sound like a man who is at peace with how things turned out. The rekindling happened, it was lovely, it didn’t last, and the friendship survived anyway. That’s not a tragedy. If anything, it’s a small victory.

There’s also something quietly encouraging about a reality star being this open without turning it into a storyline. Fraser could have saved this update for a reunion special or teased it for weeks. Instead, he just answered the question honestly in a regular interview, said they’re very, very good, and moved on. No games, no cliffhanger.

For now, that’s the update: Fraser Olender and Matt Rogers are no longer a couple, but they’re still very much in each other’s lives. They support each other. They adore each other. And if Fraser’s schedule lines up, he’s seeing Matt tomorrow. In a world of messy celebrity splits, that’s about as good as it gets.

Source: Just Jared